When your JOB is similar to a Bad Marriage

Whether you Choose to agree or disagree, it is a fact that your Job takes a huge part of your Life. We spend more time in our jobs than our families. If your Job satisfies your needs, is rewarding and makes you joyful, it is absolutely worth the time. But a bad Job could be a sink of your happiness and peace of mind. It is more similar to a Bad Marriage.

Let us Find out How?

You do not get the attention you desire:

Your supervisors or boss does not give you the right kind and right amount of attention you seek. Your supervisor does not provide you with enough information, does not answers your questions and gives zero feedback when you absolutely need it. This situation is similar to a spouse ignoring the other partner and zero interaction in times of need.

Your boss does not recognize your contribution:

Partners in a bad marriage do not acknowledge each other’s contributions and sacrifices.

You hope it is the best, but settle:

Very often a bad job or a bad relationship is an outcome of settling down with whatever you get as a result.This in Psychological terms is called “ Satisficing” Which is thinking that a situation is just  good enough” (It is not great!)

You want growth, but your efforts are restrained:

Everyone is not lazy or demotivated to work. You want to learn new skills, take additional responsibilities but the company does not support you. If you have an overcontrolling partner,he/she does the same. They kill your creativity and novelty.

You handle a lot of the Pressure:

A common element is broken teams /partnerships is an imbalance in the way people contribute. If you contribute more than other partners and do not get the same kind of commitment from the other people, it will make you resentful and you will start to hold back.

There is a lot of Negativity:

A good job like a marriage is an important relationship in your life and both of them should bring in a lot of positive emotions. Bad job and marriage instead bring a host of negativity including anger, resentment, sadness, and boredom.

You feel “ locked-up”:

You often stick to a bad job or relationship when you feel you have no alternatives with you; become emotionally or financially dependent and are always dwindling between whether you should leave or work harder to make the situation become liveable.

Do you often feel like not getting up from bed to face the day? Then most likely either the problem is your Job or your Interpersonal relationships.