What are you thinking?

 “He who believes he can and he who believes he cannot are both correct.” -Henry Ford 

Your thoughts make you who you are; they either make you or break you.What you speak to yourself when alone is very important.Self-talk i.e, the thoughts you have about what you feel and why you feel so can make you Hopeful or Hopeless about your Life. For example, when you make a mistake, you can either magnify the negativity or turn your mistake into being productive.

Negative self-talk is not real, it is unnecessary and counter-productive. You get into a spiral downward emotionally from where it becomes very hard to pull yourself out.

Research has found that more than 90% of top performers are emotionally intelligent. Additionally, it was found that these high EQ people have an important ability to identify and control their negative self-talk so as to reach their full potential.

Some of the negative self-talk is more common to all of us and hold us back. Be –Mindful; and do not bow down to these thoughts.

Success is equal to Perfection

If perfection is your goal, you will waste a lot of time lamenting what you could not achieve instead of rejoicing what you have already achieved. To err is human.

My Destiny is predetermined

You are not destined to fail or succeed eternally. Your future is always in your control. Although, at times life becomes really difficult to deal with; situations will always change in accordance with the efforts you make for it. Be willing to take whatever comes your way rather than blaming other things outside of yourself.

I “always” or “never” do that

There is nothing in life that you “always” or “never” do. If you refer to your behavior as always and never, it is a form of self-pity.You might do something a lot and somethings not enough.Talking to yourself in such a way makes you feel out of control and hence you will be less likely to make changes.

I  will  Not  succeed without others approval

You are not as good or bad as other people’s judgment of who you are.Turn off other people’s opinions of whether you are a success or a failure. Try to take the opinions of other people with a grain of salt. Your self-worth should come from your own assessments, not from others evaluation of who you should be.

My Past is equal to my Future

If you have failed several times in your past, you start to believe that you will also fail in future.Repeated failures will erode your self-worth and confidence.Most of your failures are from trying to do something new.Just keep up your spirit and do things that will make you rise up from every failure every time.

My emotions are a reality

How you feel at a particular situation is not necessarily what the truth is. Your emotions are a result of your beliefs and evaluation of the situation. Try to challenge those negative beliefs that hold you back.

Mentriq by Dr. Prerna Kohli is India’s top Mental Health Counseling Provider. To learn more about Mentriq click here  http://mentriq.in/about-mental-health-services/

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