Are you in a healthy relationship?

When we ideate about our perfect partner, we all have a list of traits that we expect he/she possesses. We want our partner to be caring, attractive, and intelligent and loved by our friends and family.

But ending up with someone who is kind of a narcissist is a total nightmare. An emotionally abusive relation might not leave scars on the victim’s body, but it leaves the person traumatized. He/ she may suffer from various mental health issues like depression, PTSD, anxiety attacks later, if not immediately.

Following are some red flags of a toxic relationship:

Always worried about your partner’s mood swings

You are constantly walking on eggshells so that you do not upset your partner. You feel one moment he/she is treating you like a queen/king and the very next he ends up arguing with you.

Your partner threatens you to leave

Your partner always threatens you to break up whenever you both argue. You find yourself constantly worried about your relationship ending rather than enjoying time with your partner.

Too many restrictions

Your partner forces too many restrictions on you. He tries to control your life and tries to limit your social circle. He often disapproves of your opinions and friendships. He would even say ill words about your friends and family.

Emotional Unavailability

Your partner has no interest in your life and the things that bring your happiness. You have no real emotional support from his side. In case of arguments, he drags the matter for days and does not make any effort to sort things out.

You are apologizing

Whenever there is an argument, you are the one who is always apologizing, even when there is no fault of yours. He blames you for any disagreement and you feel manipulated by him in most situations.

Cannot take criticism

Your partner never accepts his shortcomings. There is never a healthy discussion, but always an argument with him. Even if he accepts his mistakes and apologize, he would end up repeating his mistakes.

Holds back affection and sex

He would stop showing his love and affection towards you and constantly bring you down. Withholding sex is another sign to consider. This might not seem to be harmful or abusive, but it surely affects when experienced constantly for a longer duration.

Avoid meeting or communicating

Your partner would avoid your calls or texts, but will probably be actively communicating to everyone else. He would also be active on various social media platforms. Even if he meets you, he would avoid talking and would rather focus on sex or would keep himself occupied with some or the other thing.

Hides the relationship

Your partner does not accept you publically. He avoids going out with you. He might be deleting your comments from his social media posts or un-tagging himself from your posts.

The above are some signs that clearly depict an unhealthy relationship. Can you relate to these? Do you feel trapped? If yes, it’s time for you to get yourself back.

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