Premarital Counselling

December is here! It is the wedding season in most parts of the world and also the most beautiful time of the year with Christmas and New Year around the Corner. If you are reading this Blog, it is more likely that you are engaged already or about to be engaged to Your Sweetheart. While the first thing on your mind after you made a decision to commit for life would be to make your Wedding plans about shopping, venue, Cocktail party, Food menu, we urge you to Think about Premarital Counselling as an essential part of the plan too.

What is it?

Premarital counseling is much like planning your honeymoon with a Travel agent. It is quite likely that you can have an awesome honeymoon when you plan yourself too but if you have professional support you can ensure that you are fully prepared about all the challenges and questions that might be lingering in your mind.

Premarital counseling ensures that you have a healthy, strong and stable relationship with your partner. You can identify each other’s strengths and weaknesses quicker and be more prepared to face them than discover and deal with them later when the damage is already done. Premarital counseling focuses on the areas of marriage  that are at the heart of most marital problems like:

• Communication Styles
• Financial Responsibilities
• Core values and beliefs
• Role of each partner in marriage
• Intimacy, Sex, and Affection
• Relationships with the family of origins
• Parenting and Childbirth
• Dealing with negative emotions of your partner
• Quality time
• In-laws and their perspectives
• Life goals of each partner and careers

Major Benefits of Premarital counseling

• You will create mutual resolutions and goals for your marriage by knowing each other’s ideas clearly. When you discuss and know this beforehand, you have your hopes in place.
• You will be able to know specific patterns of your partner like; he/she has a trouble in saving money and you will not go crazy finding out why he does certain things and makes certain irrational decisions.
• You will be able to understand each other’s communication styles and have tools to improve it further. Good communication is the key to a good marriage.
• You will be able to dismiss the cold-feet easily that is very common to most people before a lifelong commitment. Premarital counseling will reassure that you are taking the right step and help you with specific areas that you can improve together.

It is a myth that Premarital counseling will take away all the fun from your marriage. Premarital counseling is important because it will help you ask certain questions that you thought never existed and make you ready to deal with those difficult situations. You will still have all the fun of discovery and learning in your Marriage.

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