Managing Your Child’s Anger

Is your child always throwing tantrums, Is it getting difficult for you as a parent to make him understand the right way to behave? Are you losing your peace?

Then your child might be having anger issues.

Anger in children is getting common these days factors such as non-cooperative parents, not meeting the demands of the child, aggressive and violent environment at home or school can lead to a child being angry all the time.

One can understand from this that the child does learn from his environment since he still is growing up, Things like: catching up phrases by looking at an adult which can lead to misbehaving of the child. Also since the child is growing at every stage it is upon the parent to regulate their child’s emotion.

Here are a few steps on how you can modulate, modify and stable your child’s anger and give its behave a new course:

steps to keep your child’s Anger under control

The first thing to do is know the difference between Feelings and Behaviour:

Anger is like other emotions although many kids struggle to understand the difference between angry feelings and aggressive behavior.

Show your child to tag and learn about his emotions, so he can direct feelings of anger, frustration, and disappointment.

Direct him by saying, “It’s Alright to feel frustrated but it’s not to start yelling ” Help him see that he’s in control of his actions when he feels angry.

At times, aggressive behavior forms a variety of uncomfortable feelings, like unhappiness or embarrassment. Being a parent you should talk about such feelings regularly or when in need, your child will learn to recognize his feelings better.

Model Anger Management skills:

Since your child would learn things from you it is better to teach by showing him how you deal with your anger. Say, “its OK to be frustrated and not OK to yell so I’m going to be patient and have some time alone when I feel alright ill be back “ and so you can apologize when you’re back.

Take charge and be responsible for your behavior so as for them to learn, when you lose your cool in front of your kids Apologise and discuss what you should have done instead.

Facing consequences:

“Good” or “Bad” for good behavior reward them with a token by giving them extra time to play or watch TV.and for bad behavior (on getting angry, beating, ) not giving them extra time to play or not helping them do homework, or watch TV.

These things will help set boundaries and let the child bring positive change and learn new patterns in Self Behaviour Modification.

Read Together:

Children love stories and  according to research “ The last thing you read or see acts as a modification In your inner self “

Reading a story to your child about anger, frustration, sadness, rejection, loneliness and how you can overcome it will help you to teach your child in a better way.

If needed seek Help:

In such times guiding your child can make him learn that it is normal for kids to struggle to manage their anger sometimes.

In the worse case, if your child is struggling to get his anger under control, or his anger problems appear to be getting worse, Seek the help of a professional.

A trained professional can discard any underlying mental health problems and can offer aid in creating a BMP behavior management plan.

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