10 reasons why you are not able to get over your breakup?

If you are reading this blog probably you or your closed one has undergone a break up in life and are not able to move on in life. How much ever you try and console yourself that what happened, happened for good but yet you are obsessed with those thoughts which makes your life miserable.

You might have suffered break up’s before but there are some breakups which are hard to move on, let’s understand why?

• You had surrendered yourself totally: You never thought that the relationship would end. Probably your too much involvement has made it difficult for you to come out of the relationship and find yourself. It may take a while to get out, but it’s never impossible.
• You thought he/she was the one: You thought you have found out the “one” you ever wanted. And when the relationship couldn’t be sustained, you feel none could ever match up apart from your ex-partner.
• Your date for long: Naturally, you are more connected when you spend a long number of years in a relationship. It’s difficult to move on immediately but slowly and gradually you will get over.
• You are still in touch with your ex: Through social media or phone or texts, staying in contact with ex-partner you can’t seem to get over is a sign of vulnerability. You might want to get back or maybe you don’t want to get back together but are still in contact — regardless, the simple contact is enough to have you hesitate, compare, or linger on him/her while you’re trying to move on.
• You haven’t got the closure: Breaks ups without closure are the hardest. As you don’t know what went wrong in the relationship. Was it you or was it someone else because of which you were dropped off without any clarification.
• You are comparing: No two individuals are the same. You might be comparing your ex-partner with the one with whom you are newly dating or a previous relationship of how well it ended.
• You are the reason for the break up: Sometimes it’s your guilt that doesn’t let one forget the memories and rather gets attached to the issue.
• You are lonely: Breakups make a person lonely, no matter how occupied you are with job, hobby class, the family you are unable to get over the comfort level you shared with your ex-partner.
• You are depressed and anxious: You constantly worry about what happened to you and how the way your relationship ended and also connecting your future to it by thinking what if a similar thing happens to me again?
• You are catastrophizing: You are blowing out of proportion and hence finding it hard to accept. Breakups happen and some happen for good. You are not looking after the positive aspect of the breaking and focusing only on what you have lost and not what you have gained.

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