Habits That Will Make You Irresistible

How do some people always emit a lot of positive energy and confidence irrespective of how they look, what social connections they have and have money in their pocket or not?

Even the most doubtful person finds themselves attracted and enamoured by their charm. You turn to these people for advice, companionship and help always. They are the life of the party and their surroundings and you never seem to have enough of them.

What makes them so irresistible? What do they have that you don’t have?

The difference is that their Self-worth comes from within themselves and they are not searching for validation outside of them. If you are one of them who thinks that these traits are unteachable, natural, by genes and is for only a few; that is a gross misconception.

There are certain habits that these people practice daily to become what they are:

Focus on People more than anything else.

Concentrate on the people around you than looking at your smartphones. Listen to what people around you want to say and ask open-ended questions to draw them out more. Do not obsess with yourself and spend time thinking what you should respond to people or what they are thinking about you.

Be Authentic.

Do not fake about who you are. Be who you are and talk about what you feel is right. When you are authentic, people do not have to burn their brains to find out what your next move will be. People know you can be trusted when you put up the real face.

Find your reasons to love Life.

Always be passionate and positive about whatever you do. Always look at life as an adventure and approach it with joy. Other people will always want to be a part of your exciting journey. Treat your problems as temporary obstacles than internalizing it and thinking of it as an inescapable fate. Remember if today is a bad day, tomorrow, next week, next month or next year would be better.

Ditch Small talk.

Small talk will keep you away from the true emotional connection. Do not approach people with small-talk; it will put the mind of the listener on autopilot and hence will prevent any real affinity towards you. Instead be interested in the other person’s life and adventures.

Treat everyone with respect.

Be polite to everyone alike, be it your biggest client or a waiter taking his orders. People notice when you behave very nicely with them and not with others around you. Always keep your head levelled and separate yourself from your successes.

Don’t try too hard.

Do not dominate your conversations with how smart and successful you are. Resist the urge and with practice and eventually, your patterns of communication will change.

Smile.

People unconsciously mirror your body language when you talk to them. Smile during conversations and people will return you the favour.

Be Presentable.

Make a genuine effort to look your best, like cleaning your house before guests arrive as a respect for the other person. Once you have made yourself presentable, forget about it.

Differentiate between Fact and Opinion

Handle controversial topics with grace and poise. Share your opinions but make it clear that they are just opinions, not facts. Recognise that whether you are discussing global warming, GMO food, or Politics; people as intelligent as you may have different opinions.

Being Irresistible is perfecting a few habits. Always remember the key is to Focus more on the other person than on yourself.