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“Happiness is letting go of what you think your life is supposed to look like

& celebrating it for everything that it is!”

We are living in a materialistic world where we feel having the wealth, career, nice property, all luxurious items will make us feel good and happy. People are not happy when they don’t have these things in life. But those who have are also not happy! Why so? What are the reasons? We tried finding out some core reasons why people are not happy.

Relying on someone else

Happiness is within us. We cannot blame others for us not being happy. If a person walks out of your life, your life becomes gloomy and nothing seems to be interesting to you. Till the time that person was there in your life, you were happy, now you aren’t which means your happiness is derived by another person and not by you or its not within you.

Comparison

Women often compare themselves with other women. “My friend owns a bag from Michael Kors and I have a bag from Baggit.” “I have got a Hero Passion and my friend has a Bullet or a Kawasaki Ninja” Do you find yourself in this situation? If so then you won’t ever be happy. Comparisons make you inferior and depressed.

No Gratitude

We fail to thank for what we have and keep cribbing on what we don’t have. We focus on what is missing in our lives than what we actually have to cherish. Anything in physical form is short-lived. Today if you have Michael Kors, you may wish for Chanel tomorrow, so our wishes are endless. We do not mean to say you should not aim high to achieve whatever you want in life, but first, one should thank for whatever he/she has in life and secondly work on to achieve what is missing.

Being in the comfort zone

“A comfort zone is a really beautiful place, but nothing grows there. When growth is missing people are unhappy. Just to be on the safer side you may work in a government job, but are you really happy? Is that your dream?

Unhealthy Lifestyle

The sedentary lifestyle has made us so lethargic that we eat all unhealthy stuff, do not exercise and depend on people and machines for our work. When we keep our body busy by working out, doing the daily chores, eating healthy, endorphins are released in the brain which is really important to be happy.

Dwell in past or future

We tend to go to the past or in the future. We forget to live in the present. The bad past and unknown future plague us so much so that we forget we are living today. Make a conscious effort to make the best in your present on all fronts as the past cannot be erased and the future cannot be seen beforehand.

Very little is needed to make a Happy Life;

it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking.

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Depression is a feeling of hopelessness and chronic sadness which is persistent for more than 3 months. The symptoms of chronic depression are losing interest in normal activities, feeling low all the time, lack of sleep or sleeping too much. These feelings may last for years intruding on your work, relationships, and daily activities. People with chronic depression don’t know what Happiness is or the circumstances and the inner feelings they have, have made them forget what Happiness is…

Is there a cure for chronic Depression?

Yes, with proper treatment chronic depression can be treated. The severity of the depression decides whether one needs to take the medicines or not. But along with medicines, talk therapy is a must. Without talk therapy, perhaps there won’t be any change in the emotional and behavioral symptoms. Medicines will help in balancing the chemical issues in the brain.

What can you do to get out of Depression?

Balanced diet: Healthy diet with vegetables, the proper amount of protein, milk products, dry fruits need to be consumed. When you eat right and less of junk your mood levels get automatically right. In case you are binging or overeating, reduce the amount of food you eat.

Exercise: Any form of exercise helps to release good hormones, makes you feel good.  You may not have that motivation which is needed. Even if you have, you may not still feel like doing so. Make a conscious effort to exercise at a certain hour and at a stipulated time.

Sleep: If you are having an erratic sleep schedule, try to keep your sleep schedules normal. Sleep only during night hours and ensure you sleep at a certain time daily.

Routine: As stated earlier, set up a routine for yourself. Get yourself engaged in activities you love. Even when you don’t feel like waking up from your bed, stick to the timetable you have set.

Set up your goals: When you set goals to give it a deadline and work to achieve your deadline. This will ensure you are out of the gloomy thoughts. When you have an aim to achieve and a will to get over depression one would try to overcome the weird feeling.

Get enough sunlight: Go and grab a daily source of vitamin K at around 9.30 am. Try to keep your rooms well lit. Do not sit in darkness.

Smile: Be around people who make you smile and have the potential to deal with your chronic sadness and help you to come out of it. Laughter and smile come from within. There should not be an effort while doing so.

Work on the core issues: If you have been through a traumatic past that is still bothering you and that issue is the reason for depression, address the issue by taking the help of your friends, family, and counselor.

Work on negative thoughts: If you have gone through a bad phase/event and you are having negative thoughts or repetitive images of the same event, you need to take the help of a counselor to challenge the negative thoughts.

Never hesitate to take the help of a psychologist to overcome depression. Let your psychologist analyze the severity of depression. You can get over chronic depression with or without medication however talk therapy is necessary.

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“If you want your children to turn out well, spend twice as much time with them,

And half as much money!”

As the saying goes by, we need to spend more time with our children by playing, reading together, doing an activity, learning new stuff than spending money on them by giving them all the luxuries of life. A family that stay-cates together, bonds well together.

Planning a trip during the summer or winter vacation could be beneficial to everyone in the family in so many ways…

Emotional strong bonding:

When a family or friends travel together for a holiday, they spend quality time together and enjoy each other’s company. It’s a wonderful opportunity to spend time from the daily chores, forget about responsibilities for a while, be stress-free and enjoy to the fullest. This helps to create a strong bond between family and friends.

Good academic performance:

Families who share great bonding, indirectly are taking care of their children’s academic performance. Children are open to their parents, can be frank about their academics, worry less or are less scared of them.

Less behavioral issues:

When there is a good rapport between parents and children, naturally children behave good, are less cranky, have required confidence, self-respect and esteem.

Good for overall health:

When the home temperament is good, it shows on the physical and mental health. If the bonding is not so good, children may remain unhappy, may have anger issues, dissatisfied with themselves and this would negatively impact their physical and mental health.

New learnings:

Bonding with parents and friends can be of great learning. It helps children to learn new things and get educated about new games, fishing, boating-kayaking, pottery, many indoor and outdoor games. With friends, it can be educational by learning about what team management is, learn positive qualities of friends, engage in a new activity like paragliding or scuba diving.

Communication:

Communication is the heart of any relationship. Effective communication is an important part of a strong and healthy family. When we communicate effectively, it helps to bond effectively. Children become good communicators, better listeners and most importantly a good human when the home environment is better. Hence good communication via family bonding is necessary.

Sharing:

Sharing helps to create quality moments. In India, we have so many traditions and occasions where we tend to share food, emotions, culture, traditions with each other. At holiday’s friends can share past experiences of childhood or current joys and sorrows. Children can learn the quality of sharing their food, laughter, joys and sorrows.

Memories:

We often go back to the past to relive old beautiful memories and say “Oh, what were those days?!” Family bonding, travels, get together helps to create wonderful memories for a lifetime.

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Happiness is a choice and it’s a journey. Some people remain happy in hard times and there are these people who cannot be happy even when there is nothing to cry for.

So we have tried listing 10 roadblocks of happiness.

Having Unrealistic sense of Self

Do you feel you are not good at anything? Do you feel you “should” have done this or do you feel that others “should” have done that? Keeping unrealistic expectations from self and others will ruin your happiness.

Entitlement

A sense of entitlement — a feeling that you have a right to something — is the root cause of most people’s unhappiness. Parents are unhappy when they don’t get the respect from their kids that they think they’re entitled to. Employees feel unhappy when they don’t get the raise they feel entitled to.

Anger

Being happy, when angry is highly impossible. We get angry when things don’t turn up the way we want or we are hurt. If these things are happening in your daily life then you need to work on them & self to eliminate anger.

Resentment

When we keep our negative thoughts/anger to ourself we get a feeling of resentment. Resentful people look at life through darkened glasses, expecting the worst and being on the ready to defend themselves from harm.

Greed

Greed is all about competition & undeserving, but happiness comes more from cooperation & what you deserve — an effort to act in harmony with the world around you. Happiness is being happy with what you have. It’s also about thriving to achieve it with own efforts.

Aggression

Aggression means “moving against the world.” Two types of aggressive behavior occur between human beings — achievement-driven aggression and combative aggression. Achievement-driven aggression can lead to happiness, but combative aggression does not.

Depression

Feelings of lethargy, low appetite, negative self-image, unable to do regular chores, lack of pleasure, guilt can never make us happy. One needs to work on these persistent symptoms to be happy.

Loneliness

You can be lonely in the midst of a large gathering of people, and not feel lonely when you’re by yourself. Happiness is more about belonging than about having money, power, and success.

Vindictiveness

Hurting a person because they were hurt is vindictiveness. Vindictive people think that by hurting the person who caused them pain — whether physical or emotional — they’ll somehow feel better. But the painful memory stays with you always making you unhappy.

Addiction

Any addiction be it drug, alcohol, food is going to give temporary happiness. Address all your emotional traumas and baggage to overcome addiction and lead a happy life.

If you are suffering through these issues and are unhappy, consult a Psychologist soon.

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