Many people consider the topic of sex as a taboo. Hence, it increases the lack of education about the topic. Due to which, many people only indulge in sexual activities to reproduce. Hence, after the couple conceives a child, the couple starts to put sexual needs and activities aside. But, it should not be the case as there are many benefits as well as there is an importance of sex in a relationship.

Thus, below are few reasons why sex is important in a relationship:

Better Appearance:

It is a well-known fact that sexual intimacy burns calories. Also, a study has shown when you indulge frequently in sexual activities your body starts to develop immunities and helps your skin generates a radiant glow. Along with it, people who indulge in frequent sexual activity with their partners maintain a healthy lifestyle. Hence, attaining a better appearance.

Releases Stress and Increases Immunity:

Frequent Sexual intimacy helps increase your immunity. For women, studies have shown that sexual orgasm has helped them to ease their migraine pain as well as period cramps. For men, orgasm helps them release their daily tension as well as decrease the risk of prostate cancer. Also, indulging in sexual activity helps fight against flu and the common cold.

Helps Sleep Better:

As mentioned above, sexual intercourse helps relieve stress. Hence, when the person is stress-free, the person is able to sleep better. Also, if the person is able to sleep he/she is able to work more efficiently the next day as the body gets its rest which it asks for.

Creates a Mental Immunity:

Indulging in sexual activity releases chemicals which helps fight stress. A low-stress life results in a general mental well-being. Also, it makes us think positive about our body and increases our confidence. Thus, bringing positive thinking and creating a happy mood in general.

Increases the Bond:

Achieving orgasm releases oxytocin, which makes the person feel more loved. Hence, it increases the bond between the two people where they are able to understand each other much better. Thus, bringing both of the partners together. Which then leads to an overall happiness in the relationship.

Thus, we see that sexual intimacy is very important in any relationship. It keeps the spark alive in the relationship as well as increases the bond between the two partners.

But, too much of everything is bad, hence if you think you are suffering from sex addiction then please visit a mental health professional immediately.

You can Read about Sex Addiction in Women

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Lonely people are more likely to die of cardiovascular disease, cancer, respiratory problems and gastric problems than the Non-Lonely. You as a human being are supposed to be connected to other human beings. This need for connectedness is wired so deeply that if you are rejected socially or excluded from society in any way, it hurts like an actual wound. Loneliness kills!

Another research showed that, if you have less than three people whom you could confide in and lean for emotional support, you have double the chances of dying from heart diseases. You also have double the likelihood of dying of all the causes even if age, earnings, and smoking levels are comparable.

Besides, premature death, loneliness is the contributor to many more health-related woes. Lonely people, in general, suffer from more severe symptoms of the same disease than the non-lonely. Chronic Loneliness leads to low immunity, cognitive decline, and dementia. If you feel lonely you have double the chances of developing Alzheimer’s.

Loneliness and depression often go hand in hand. Hence, Loneliness is a Psychological condition in which you feel empty, have feelings of lack of control, perceive yourself as worthless; similar to some of the symptoms of depression. Although depression does not necessarily predict loneliness. Loneliness leads to an increase in symptoms of depression apart from increased stress, anxiety and anger.

What is Loneliness?

Loneliness is not just being alone. Traditionally you must have come to believe that Loneliness effects those who are unmarried, divorced, having less extended family etc. But Loneliness is your subjective experience and is exclusive of the fact that you are married, divorced, widowed etc. Loneliness is then a perceptual state that depends more on the quality of your relationships and not just the number of connections you have. You can also feel lonely with a vast social network and hundreds of friends. The subjective loneliness you experience is a big risk factor than actual social  Isolation. It is more about how you feel than what your social connections look like.

How  to Fight Loneliness

Talk to strangers

Talk to someone sitting next to you on the bus on the route to the office. Small talk does more good than it looks like. You will feel much better after talking for only 30 seconds with someone than an hour of online interaction.

Converse for seven minutes

It takes seven minutes to know that the conversation is going to be interesting or not. You reveal yourself after those initial hitches and hulls and start to connect at a deeper level.

Choose face time

Being there is person Is the best way of communication, but when this is not possible choose FACETIME by video call.

Use social media Wisely’

Create smaller social networks within the large ones. Sharing opinions, reactions with a selective group of people is more meaningful.

Know your neighbor

Research found out that better connections in neighborhood lower your risk of cardiovascular diseases. Arrange for a coffee terrace party with your neighbors and you will find yourself healthier and happier.

Invite for a Dinner

Eating together is a form of social collective event that brings people closer.

Be Creative

Organize a craft night with a closed group having common interests. Any form of art will help you connect with other people without actually talking about yourself.

“ When someone else pays attention to you and in turn allows you to connect to them through shared experience the human circuit gets completed; so you are connected “

Talk out

Just talk about your feelings and you will feel much less lonely. Call a friend for a date, or speak to your parents, colleagues to tell how you feel, share the load.

Touch –Literally

Touch is a powerful medicine. Hence, Pat someone on the back, hold their hands or hug. Physical touch will lower your physiological stress, will increase immunity, help you recover from inflammation and infection. It will release oxytocin; the feel-good hormone which in turn will strengthen your social bonds.

“Friendship is a very important relationship. But not everyone is blessed with one. So, what is the most important component that is vital to a friendship? It is commitment. Commitment is important for all long-term and fulfilling relationships.”

If you wish to cultivate real friendships, you need to be obliged to each other in a healthy and meaningful way. You need to devote energy, time, thoughts, to the needs and desires of your friend. In reward for this, you will get a satisfying and rich relationship for a lifetime.

Let us say that you bought a new car and it has great looks, good mileage etc, but it will not be nice if you do not take care of it. You have to do minor repairs before there is a major breakdown, change the oil etc to keep it running smooth. When you do such minor maintenance work regularly the car will have a long life and would be more reliable.

A friendship is also like that. You have to take care of your friend and your friendship so that it keeps going smoothly. You have to sort out minor problems before they become major resentments.

Here are some of the things you can do to make your friendships healthy:

Be in contact

Connect with your friends in small intervals. It might be difficult for you to get a lot of time to sit and chat with them but you can always make quick texts, emails etc. A very important part of friendship is sharing. Your friends want to know and share important information about his life and your life. It is also true that, with good friends, you will always pick up from where you left but by then you will lose out on several years of companionship.

Don’t keep scores

Don’t calculate and make a profit and loss statement of who did what. You can always make a phone call even when your friend could not manage to. When you give something unconditionally, it often balances out in unexpected ways. There can always be genuine reasons behind why your friend cannot call you back. Friendships will not work if you always try to make it even.

Always be Balanced

It is very important to keep it equal in friendship. Friendship should be healthy enough to shift roles easily. Share your stories and listen mindfully. Do not feel inferior or superior to each other and look up to each other for wisdom and understanding. True friendship is walking side by side.

Maintain Loyalty

Loyalty is the most important ingredient of a good friendship. Do not talk about your friend in a negative way to others. Do not float rumours or gossip about your friend and stand up for each other at all times. Accept the faults of your friend and do not make it a topic to gossip about.

Remember your friend’s birthday

Remember important things in your friend’s life and wish them. Regular small gestures are also as important as special events. Send them a thoughtful card to remind them of how special they are.

Resolve Conflict

Human relationship is not possible without conflict. Do not let small resentments grow into bigger ones. Give each other space and agree to disagree. Work through your resentments than break it off.

Be an admirer

Do not compare yourself with your friend instead be his/her fan. Admire their achievements and appreciate them. Cheer each other up in bad times.

The “Golden rule” for a long-term friendship is to treat your friend as he/she wants to be treated. Pay attention to their qualities and be with them in times of their troubles. Accept the person who your friend is as complete.

How do some people always emit a lot of positive energy and confidence irrespective of how they look, what social connections they have and have money in their pocket or not?

Even the most doubtful person finds themselves attracted and enamoured by their charm. You turn to these people for advice, companionship and help always. They are the life of the party and their surroundings and you never seem to have enough of them.

What makes them so irresistible? What do they have that you don’t have?

The difference is that their Self-worth comes from within themselves and they are not searching for validation outside of them. If you are one of them who thinks that these traits are unteachable, natural, by genes and is for only a few; that is a gross misconception.

There are certain habits that these people practice daily to become what they are:

Focus on People more than anything else.

Concentrate on the people around you than looking at your smartphones. Listen to what people around you want to say and ask open-ended questions to draw them out more. Do not obsess with yourself and spend time thinking what you should respond to people or what they are thinking about you.

Be Authentic.

Do not fake about who you are. Be who you are and talk about what you feel is right. When you are authentic, people do not have to burn their brains to find out what your next move will be. People know you can be trusted when you put up the real face.

Find your reasons to love Life.

Always be passionate and positive about whatever you do. Always look at life as an adventure and approach it with joy. Other people will always want to be a part of your exciting journey. Treat your problems as temporary obstacles than internalizing it and thinking of it as an inescapable fate. Remember if today is a bad day, tomorrow, next week, next month or next year would be better.

Ditch Small talk.

Small talk will keep you away from the true emotional connection. Do not approach people with small-talk; it will put the mind of the listener on autopilot and hence will prevent any real affinity towards you. Instead be interested in the other person’s life and adventures.

Treat everyone with respect.

Be polite to everyone alike, be it your biggest client or a waiter taking his orders. People notice when you behave very nicely with them and not with others around you. Always keep your head levelled and separate yourself from your successes.

Don’t try too hard.

Do not dominate your conversations with how smart and successful you are. Resist the urge and with practice and eventually, your patterns of communication will change.

Smile.

People unconsciously mirror your body language when you talk to them. Smile during conversations and people will return you the favour.

Be Presentable.

Make a genuine effort to look your best, like cleaning your house before guests arrive as a respect for the other person. Once you have made yourself presentable, forget about it.

Differentiate between Fact and Opinion

Handle controversial topics with grace and poise. Share your opinions but make it clear that they are just opinions, not facts. Recognise that whether you are discussing global warming, GMO food, or Politics; people as intelligent as you may have different opinions.

Being Irresistible is perfecting a few habits. Always remember the key is to Focus more on the other person than on yourself.

Do you often feel like you did not deserve whatever you have achieved? Be it your college grades, the promotion or the salary hike. Hence, whatever you achieve is the result of Luck, chance or negligence of other people. Do you often find youself stressing out about the fact that you are a fraud; would be exposed someday and all that you achieved would be rightfully taken away from you?

There is a name for these set of negative thoughts that you have. You are suffering from the “ IMPOSTER SYNDROME”.

What is Imposter Syndrome?

Imposter Syndrome is a pattern of Self-Doubt and Anxiety that will make you question your abilities, even when you succeed at something and you will find yourself searching some external validation for your successes. To simplify, it will be difficult for you to recognize and rejoice your accomplishments and strengths.

You will always have a feeling that your achievements are a result of some mysterious Fluke or Luck. They are afraid that unless they make a huge effort next time, they are going to Blow it and never succeed again.

This Syndrome is defined as a set of feelings, including inadequacy, self-doubt, intellectual fraudulence that persists despite proof of competence. However, Imposter syndrome does not equate with lack of Self-confidence or Low Self-Esteem. On the contrary, some researchers have linked it to “ Perfectionism”.

Symptoms of Imposter Syndrome

Although there is no specific Line of diagnosis for this, all mental health professionals have dealt with it. Some Indicators are outlined below

• Difficulty accepting Praise or compliments
•  Discount your success for Luck or mere chance
•  Always overwork even after the project has reached its completion
• Have the compulsive need to be the best
• You are not able to enjoy your successes
• Fear success sometimes
• You always compare your struggles with others
• focus more on what you haven’t done than on what you have done
• You have convinced yourself that you are not enough

If You are suffering from these persistent feelings of being a Fraud, you are not the only one who suffered from these kinds of feelings. Research shows that 70% of people have these feeling at some point in their life. SEEK HELP! Recognise that these thoughts are stopping you from Limitless growth and abundance in Life. You do not have to do everything alone.

May is the International Masturbation Month. There is a lot of stigma surrounding Masturbation. To reduce this stigma an entire month is being dedicated to it. Unfortunately, most people have a perception that masturbation is unhealthy.

May 28th each year is celebrated as the International Masturbation Day!

It’s normal for both men and women to masturbate ( what is touch yourself to derive sexual pleasure). Both sexually active people and those who aren’t sexually active masturbate.  Interestingly masturbation even has health benefits, the top health benefit is that it reduces stress.

Almost all of the people masturbate! Talking about it isn’t acceptable, but it’s common for people for both men and women, the young and the old to do it. Even before puberty, very young children sometimes discover that touching their private parts gives pleasure. If you notice that your young children are touching their private parts, tell them that it is normal, but it should be done in private.

Humans masturbate for various different reasons:

• for some, it helps them relax
• others do it to they want to understand their body better
• many masturbate because they want to release sexual tension
• some do it when their partner isn’t around
• The common reason for people to masturbate is that it makes them feel good

It is a common belief among some people that masturbation is only something you do when you don’t have a sex partner. Yet it is a well-known fact that both single people and people in relationships masturbate. Although, the frequency of masturbation differs from person to person. Some people masturbate often, others rarely, and some people don’t masturbate at all.

The thing to remember is that different people masturbate in different ways, for different reasons. Masturbation is a totally personal decision, and there’s no “normal” way.

The key to remember is:

1. It is a private activity and you should do it in private
2. It is normal, as long as it doesn’t disrupt your day to day life and doesn’t prevent you from going to school, college, office, or if it is disrupting your daily life in any way.

If you notice that masturbation is disrupting your day to day life, it is important to meet with an experienced Psychologist who can guide you on how to take control of your life.

Please take our free test on Porn Addiction

Also, read the article on Sex Addiction in Men

Also, read the article on Sex Addiction in Women

Happy Mothers Day to All!

The Last Sunday had been quite eventful for all of us who celebrated for their mothers and Mother’s themselves. Being Women and a Mother comes with a lot of Multi-tasking in New India and a subsequent increase in the inability to deal with it Physically and Psychologically.

Let’s Give all Our mother’s a Gift of “ Understanding” by knowing how all this multitasking could take a toll on a Woman’s Mental Health!

There is a large Percentage of women suffering from untreated and underdiagnosed mental illnesses due to a variety of reasons including inadequacy of mental health professionals, lack of awareness, the disadvantaged position of women, stigma, multiple roles, and domestic violence etc.

 Here are some of the Most Common Psychological Disorders In women which can impact a women’s overall health and well-being:

Depression

One of the major reasons for depression in women is a significant amount of biological changes that they go through in their lifespan. Hormonal flux around and during childbirth is yet another important factor. Women also suffer from premenstrual dysphoric disorder around their menstrual cycles; which has similar symptoms to that of a major depressive disorder. Women are always taught to Internalize and be mindful of their feelings and emotions, unlike the boys who are taught to “Toughen up”! Added to all this, there is the stress of working in the office and the rush of deadlines to be on par with their male counterparts. Statistically, 75 % of Indian working women suffer from depression at some point in their lives.

Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder

Women are twice likely to suffer from PTSD. This is not due to the fact that women suffer from more traumas in life than men; but certain types of traumas are more common in females like sexual abuse and domestic violence and abuse. Another reason for this statistics of women doubling in rates for this disorder could be how women react to the trauma. The survivors generally blame themselves and believe that their incompetence had led to the trauma. Also, the coping skills that women use are generally suppressing or disengaging from upsetting emotions and memories.

Women generally start with a higher baseline for anxiety and depression; could also explain why they experience Trauma more often.

Anxiety

Anxiety an emotion that has existed in humans since evolution wheel started moving. It is necessary in moderation. But if it gets out of bound it destabilizes the individual and makes him dysfunctional. Again, women are twice as likely to be diagnosed with an Anxiety disorder than Men; grossly because of how the different genders react to the stressors in life. How the women react to stressors again is largely based on social and cultural norms and parenting styles.

Eating Disorders

These disorders are generally labelled as women’s diseases although a lot of men are also affected by them. If you ever noticed the advertisements, billboards, TV commercials; you know how much pressure is placed on women culturally to conform to certain standards of thinness, weight, shape etc. This unhealthy mindset affects women’s relationship with food and body. Among Eating disorders, Binge eating Disorder is more common than Anorexia and Bulimia together. It could also be that men view bingeing as a part of their normal behaviour and not as something that needs correction.

More research is taking place in the light of women’s mental health issues. Targeted treatments Like therapy, counselling etc could bring more positive outcome and a buy women a better mental health.

If you or someone you know is suffering from a Mental Health problem of the categorized or Uncategorized form, do visit a Psychologist for help. Gift your Near and Dear one’s A sound Mental Health and Wellbeing.

Girls are given a lot of messages about how they should behave, talk, dress and look good in the presence of others. Not all the messages that these girls receive are healthy and it starts very young so as to leave an imprint on their young minds.

There is an increase in the sexual nature of advertisements and social media. Most of these images contain girls having a perfect body or a beautiful face etc. This kind of promotion suggests to girls that their worth is derived grossly from how to look and how appealing they are sexually.

Sexualisation affects the girls’ psychological development and mental health. This mindset, in turn, affects how girls and women are treated and viewed in a broader sense too. Here, it is very important to help the girls develop a positive self-image and self-esteem which is beyond “ Body and Beauty “. The young girls have to be taught to question the messages that are shown in social media, print media, TV etc.

It is important to remember….

• Judging a person’s  own worth on their sexual behaviour and appeal to exclude other characteristics completely is sexualisation

• The sexual nature of messages implies to the young minds that the most important aspect of their being is sexiness, beauty and associated factors and it becomes a part of their perceived childhood experience.
• The sources of these messages are advertising, television, gaming, newspapers and pornographic sites.
• These messages encourage sexualisation of girls from a very young age; before they are ready physically or emotionally
• Exploiting children, especially female children as sex objects are detrimental to adolescent mental health. It increases the risk of low-self esteem, eating disorders and depression.
• Research shows that girls and women are portrayed considerably more as sex objects than Boys or men.

What can you do as Parents or Caretakers?

Educate girls:

to value themselves for who they are as People rather than how they look and impart Value education to boys for looking at girls in a perspective other than as a sexual object.

Also, Talk with your children:

Explore their patterns of watching Movies, shows etc. Encourage them to talk to you about sexuality and their views about the same.  Hence, Encourage the female child to dress and choose their appearance;  functional and comfortable rather than placing too much importance on what makes them look beautiful and appealing.If you do not like a TV show that they watch or a dress that they wear, explain to them why you have that opinion rather than forcing it on them.

Presentable:

 Being Presentable and Tidy is a different idea than being overly concerned about good looks. Learn the difference and make your children understand that too.

Encourage sports:

extracurricular activities, music, art etc over physical appearance. Do not forget to celebrate feminity as well, maybe by giving a special lunch or flowers when the female child begins menstruating.

Be and provide healthy role models:

Children will learn what they see rather than what you tell them to do. Watch out for how much you talk about diets, body image etc. Understand and make them learn Healthy eating and fitness; Rather than just being of a particular weight or of a waist size.

Never criticize :

Don’t measure a child’s worth on the basis of their physical appearance.

Father’s role:

Is very important in the development of the daughter’s self-image and the son’s views about women. The way the man of the family treats and talks about women is very important in the formation of worldview in children.

Talk more:

About the role models and the characteristics, you want your child to copy.

Help your children:

To focus on what is important in adult life; which direction they should think, feel or the values they should keep. Always remind children to value people over their appearances and not judge them on their looks.

Again, keep in mind, it is your actions that the child will copy and not what you teach them verbally! So,  If your child is preoccupied with dress and appearances, do not force discipline on her. Maintaining a healthy relationship with your daughter is most important.

Thus, If you think your child is suffering from a negative self-image and self-esteem and that is affecting her day to day activities, a psychologist may be able to help. Take the first step towards Change.

Whenever you Hear the word depression or depressed, what picture comes to your mind?

The picture that would come to your mind will be of an isolated lonely guy, who does not want to step out of his/her house, has difficulty getting out of bed, poor hygiene and is essentially sad.

Could you picture a popular guy, who is well-educated professional with a great job, living in a big city, having a long list of friends and awards to his name to be depressed? Yes, he could be, because he wakes up every day with a gripping sense of anxiety and pressure to be “perfect” and a fear of “keeping everything together”.

High-functioning depression creeps in when you have to always be on an “ON” mode because of the pressure of jobs, are sleep deprived and feel like you have to just keep your chin-up. You do not realize that depression is lurking in the background. Although you are in constant motion, still you are unable to live life to the fullest.

What we want to point out is that someone with HFD maybe able to keep up with his demanding job, be in a successful relationship, post good photos on Facebook, attend get-togethers regularly and never look low but inside he may be suffering from a set of symptoms which can go worse if left untreated.

Some of the Symptoms of HFD are:

Problem experiencing  JOY

You would not be able to experience pleasure in things that you used to enjoy earlier. They feel events or get-togethers to be more like a burden.

Criticises others and self

You have a relentless internal dialogue criticizing themselves, others and the world in general. You cannot just turn off this chronic negative thought pattern.

Lack of energy

You feel like you hardly have the energy either physical or mental to get through the day. It feels like you are climbing a hill with a bag of heavy rocks while you go through the day.

Self-doubt

You constantly doubt all your decisions including career, relationship, doubt about your meaning of life and doubts about your ability to handle adult responsibilities.

Excessive anger or irritability

If you blow up small things that your partner says and does or reacts in a way that is disproportionate to the situation.

Guilt and worry about past and future

You tend to worry about almost anything and everything that you did or are about to do. Worrying at things like you are ageing, getting bad grades in college or who is going to take care of your parents when they get older etc. It definitely feels more than normal worrying.

Increase in use of coping mechanisms

If you are spending a lot of time on Netflix, gaming or zoning out very often from engagements or using substances like alcohol, drugs etc. That is you are making a constant effort to escape from your life.

Unable to rest and slow down

If you constantly involve yourself in some kind of work and get uncomfortable if the pace slows down because you fear your own thoughts, it is a sure sign of High Functioning Depression.

There is often a misconception about depression that you can snap out of it with will-power or something bad has to happen in your external world to make you depressed. Whereas when depression does not needs an external reason and is a general and chronic unhappiness with life that is manifested in various symptoms.

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As a company you definitely need to have rules, that is a given, But you should not be lazy and shortsighted in your need to bring in order. It is tempting to make a new rule everytime someone crosses a line.

This is where you have to differentiate yourself rather than blow out. Not every problem needs to be answered with an establishment of a new rule. Some problems need a closer inspection on an individual level rather than killing the morale of other employees.

If you cannot an outlandish behaviour of a few individuals, it is a management problem, and there is no sense in alienating your entire workforce for the same.

Here are a few bad rules companies make to bring in order amongst employees

Ridiculous leave, attendance and time rules

People are given salary for the work they do and not for the number of hours they sit at their desks. When you ask questions to your employees for coming in ten minutes late, although they might put in hours on weekend to be productive, you make it clear that rules take precedence over performance. When you keep unnecessary strict requirements for bereavement or medical leave, it leaves a sour taste in employees mouth.

Also, If your employees need to fake death or ill health to miss a day’s work, what does it talk about your company?

Forced rankings of performance

Job performance often does not follow natural bell-shaped curves like talents. By forcing employees into already existing ranking systems you evaluate performance incorrectly, make people feel like numbers, create insecurity, dissatisfaction and fear among employees that they will be fired. Evaluating each individual objectively based on individual merits and interests is hard but had long-term repercussions on maintaining a healthy culture in your company.

Bad E-mail policies

Some companies are recently getting to restrictive email use like employees have to select from a huge list of approved topics before they can send the message. This clearly sends out the message that you have no trust in your employees. Again, if you have no trust, you could have rather avoided hiring them in the first place. In an attempt to order a few bad guys you make everyone miserable. And the bad news is the bad guys always find a way.

Restricting  use of the internet

There are certain sites that people should not visit at work like pornographic and other obvious stuff. But once that is done, its an arbitrary and difficult line to draw. Most companies draw a line at an awkward place. Restricting facebook would mean the inability to check the profile of someone you just interviewed and that is a bad idea. It might also mean that it would become more difficult to do online research as well. When people are unable to check their social media profiles, it often limits their ability and enthusiasm to continue work productively.

Pathetic attempts to make it politically correct

It is good to attempt maintaining high standards for everyone for how to treat each other as we live in a world that is full of discrimination and animosity. Here also employers need to know where to draw a line. Do not go on a witch hunt as someone said “bless you” to his colleague. This will instil paranoia without making any improvement.

Placing limits on self-expression

You do not need to control how many photographs people can display,or should they or should they not be using water-bottles. It is the old “If I could hire robots instead of people, I would not be having any problem”attitude. Same is with the dress code. If you hire professionals, they will dress up professionally. However, if someone crosses the line, the management can take care of that individually.

Companies need to look more closely into their rules and regulations and analyse and re-analyse what is necessary and what is Not. Your organization should provide people with enough opportunities to flourish and be productive instead of just following rules.